As a San Diego Divorce attorney and Certified Family Law Specialist, I constantly read articles published in my field. There is an in depth article about the Jamie and Frank McCourt California divorce which is ongoing at this time. The article was published by ESPN The Magazine and written by Molly Knight. It should be must reading for anyone about to get a divorce. The lessons of the McCourt case apply to all. There are just several zeros missing from the average Californian's divorce and the McCourt's case; however the issues are the same.
Jamie and Frank McCourt own the LA Dodgers. They had a humble wedding in their apartment in 1979. A Rabbi played the piano. Since that date they have amassed millions (billions?) through their relationship--their mutual trust--their hard work combined with their talents. Marriage requires trust. When it works, a couple can do almost anything.
After this incredible history, the article put together by Ms. Knight, describes how Jamie McCourt learned of her Husband's decision to end the marriage through a 405 word e-mail message starting with "Dear Jamie". Now their case is headed towards a Family Law trial. Here are some thoughts:
If you have children: Prior to reaching this point spend some time in counseling. Either secular or church marriage counseling. During the marriage find some way to stay grounded. How did this humble couple become so insensitive to each other that those around them passed on rumors of their fights? And a marriage ending with a CEO like e-mail? Working together to make vast sums of money is great and an inspiration to others; however, trouble begins when the importance of the money supersedes people and relationships.